Different Strokes for Different Folks

Are you one of those gay men who have well-meaning [straight] friends who have setting you up on dates as their leisure pursuit? Well, I am one of those poor things.

I've been set up on dates a million and one times by my straight female friends. And with these blind dates, they would all tell me beforehand about how gorgeous a guy was, or how they were drooling at this guy but were disappointed to find out that he was gay, or that this guy was definitely gonna click with me. You get the picture. And then, when date comes, you have this jacked up expectations of your date...only for you to be disappointed that he was none of all those you've pictured in your mind. [You are actually "lucky" to be able to beg off a date earlier on if you were wise enough to exchange pictures or at least talk on the phone to get a sensing of your prospective date. But without these, boy, oh boy, what risky business you're getting yourself into...!]

And I'm not even limiting this slip up to straight friends. Some of my gay friends have likewise done the same. It's as if they have a black book of all their friends that THEY would not date themselves...and then ready to throw 'em to me at the very instance of my getting converted to singlehood. After all, someone's garbage may perhaps be someone else's treasure. Hay.

God. When will these inappropriate dates end?!

Cyber Love

It's funny, but doesn't it seem that everybody is looking for love in the wrong places?

A couple of days ago, I logged on my gay profile pages and I read some of the other guys' profiles. Interestingly, I've noticed something in the profiles: on top of the million and one guys looking for hookups, hot sex, and anonymous banging, love seems to be next in the priority list.

Call me skeptical, but I really think people that go to gay profile pages like Connexion or Guys4Men or Downelink (and God knows where else) to look for the man of their dreams, their "THE one" are being naive and overly-optimistic. And what's up with people who can easily blurt out "I love you"s after a couple of exchanges of short messages on either the chat rooms or instant messaging windows? Oh please.

Yes, these gay pages (trust me, even Friendster could be a breeding ground...) are *really* great places to find people. But the sole nucleus of it all? Networking. But finding love? Man. Snap out of it. Or better yet, step out of it.

For Chrissakes, step out of the fucking worldwide web, and get a life. If and when you meet someone online, don't be building dreams and relationships and anything else in between inside the web. Go meet up, talk like real human beings do, and see where that leads you to. If love turns out to be one final destination, then, bravo to you.

I know it's seemingly semantics, but, hey, you do NOT find love online. Love's too precious to be confined in there.